I wrote this piece in October, but am going to re-post it today, because my brother Mahlon passed last night.
“O’Neill’s Roadside Cafe”
I talked to my friend Mahlon Blue last week. He has been battling cancer for three years now, his “lounge warrior” days having caught up to him, the result of playing his music in night life venues for the past thirty-eight years. Mahlon is a man of indomitable spirit; he has been a source of inspiration for me all this time, even though we have been out of touch these past thirty-eight years, until about six months ago.
We served together in the U.S. Army, overseas in the Republic of Korea, in 1972-73. We clerked in the 199th Personnel Service Company, and ran in the same circle outside the office. Our crowd included those who preferred to find entertainment within the confines of the hooch (barracks), rather than amidst the night-life available in the clubs.
Blue perpetually had his guitar resting lightly on his lap; when he didn't, it was because he was eating or sleeping. Born in Louisiana, his drawl was soft and warm, and his John Lennon spectacles always made it seem as though he was laughing inwardly, at some joke that we were all welcome to share with him. He was the same height as me, about five- ten, and he looked out of place in a military setting. He wore a blue work shirt, when he wasn't in fatigues, and he wasn't in fatigues any more than he had to be.
Midway through my sixteen month tour of duty, I went home on leave, married and returned to Korea with my wife, to reside off-post, in the capital city of Seoul. Our apartment was open to my fellow brothers, who were able to escape hooch life and get a glimpse of normalcy for an evening. We listened to music on technologically advanced systems, available in the PX at ridiculously cheap prices, and recorded our own musical efforts, in an ongoing battle to forget that we were seven thousand miles from home.
After a particularly enjoyable occasion, when Mahlon and three of the guys had been out for dinner and a relaxing evening, Mahlon composed a little musical ditty entitled “O’Neill’s Roadside Cafe.” He and the other three played and recorded the song, and presented it to us the next time they were out at the apartment. I was overwhelmed by the gesture, not to mention that the ditty itself was quite enjoyable.
The song impacted me profoundly, helping me get through not only the rest of my tour of duty, but many hard times along the path since. Inconceivable to me now, is the fact that I did not maintain contact with Mahlon when we went our separate directions in 1973, he to North Carolina, and I to the San Gabriel Valley, twenty miles east of Los Angeles.
While writing a narrative of my military experiences last spring, I googled Mahlon’s name, and found a picture of him onstage, in a nightclub venue on Hatteras Island, North Carolina. From this source I was able to get a phone number, and subsequently contact him.
With all of the rush of emotion that accompanied our reconnecting, came the knowledge that I had missed the passing of another military brother, Steve Addis, by a mere eight weeks. I also found out that Mahlon had been battling cancer the past three years alongside Steve. There is nothing I can do to change the fact that I was not there when Steve passed, but I am here now, so I keep in close touch.
Mahlon told me on the phone a couple of weeks ago, that on his recent trip to Duke University, where he has been undergoing some very sophisticated treatment, he was being rolled out on a gurney, when he encountered another gurney, this one with a seven-year-old girl on it. One glance told him that she had been undergoing chemo therapy, and he told himself, “You think you have it bad; you ain’t facing nothin’ like this little girl.”
Even in the midst of his own battle, he is able to see that others have it worse. When I talk to him on the phone I want to tell him how much his words have meant to me all these years, and how much his spirit still means to me today, but I can’t seem to find the right language. How do I say something like this without sounding depressing or even maudlin? I think plain English will work just fine, and I think I will do it today.
Sorry for your loss.
ReplyDeleteAlong with your special memories of good times with Mr. Blue, I imagine you had some wonderful plain English talks this last year.
I wonder what “O’Neill’s Roadside Cafe” sounds like.
I have only a forty-year-old cassette recording, and I do not know how to get it on a CD. I'd like to so I could hear, "Well, down at O'Neill's, no matter how you feel, you're going to feel right when you leave, down at O'Neill's Roadside Cafe.'
ReplyDeleteI am so sorry for your loss. The words are inadequate, but I hope that you are comforted with the pieces of him that he has left behind within you and the knowledge that he fought well to the end. Peace to you.
ReplyDeleteYou are right on target, so direct. Mahlon has given me much.
ReplyDeleteOh, Mark, so sorry to hear of the loss of your friend. Your post is a beautiful tribute. My sincere condolences.
ReplyDeleteThanks, Melanie. Mahlon hailed from your home state of North Carolina.
ReplyDeleteI am glad you got the chance to reconnect with him before his passing. I'm sure it meant as much to him as to you.
ReplyDelete"The Fellowship of the ROK" (Republic of Korea) has lost a valued brother, but not the memories associated with him. Thanks for your thoughts.
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